When you get engaged, there’s so much excitement and so much to think about. However, as the wedding plans start to take form, consider limiting where you turn to for opinions.
As early in the planning stage as possible, make a firm decision about who you trust to give you honest and unbiased advice. That could be a sister, your mother, perhaps your head bridesmaid. My advice is to limit it to three or four of your closest family or friends.
It’s very easy to ask 20 people about the chair cover colours, or menu items, or even first dance or ceremony music suggestions. Trust me – this will completely overwhelm you. If you don’t know immediately what’s right, that’s OK. But when you ask too many people for their opinion it probably will make things worse.
Don’t ignore others offering advice or ideas, they’re just trying to help. But if you’re asking for help, decide early on who you will ask and make a decision to trust them and only them.
I also think there might be some advantage in making a guy one of those confidants. Depending on your outlook, a guy will likely give you a completely different perspective. Something you’re losing sleep over may in fact be one of things that many of the guests will not even notice. This will help you decide if it’s important for you, or for everybody. Either way is right.
Most importantly – never forget that the most important thing about your wedding is that it’s your wedding.
Regards
Nick Logan